I experienced the hermetic marriage within myself in the winter of 2010, two years before I met my husband.
It has changed me forever. It was as if I had found myself as an individual; that I had a unique identity. I felt totally complete within myself and set about manifesting that reality in a tangible way.
I changed my name to one that I preferred. I danced every day and started painting at all hours of the day or night – one canvas a week, for six months, because I couldn’t put into words what was happening to me.
It is difficult to describe the process, but I think Manly P. Hall does very well:
|The Hermetic marriage is an alchemical symbol found in the nature of all things, for the law of polarity is universal. In the human world it appears as sex – positive and negative, masculine and feminine. As all electricians know, positive and negative are opposite poles of one circuit. Spirit itself knows no polarity, but manifests through polarity to the accomplishment of the Great Work.
The Hermetic marriage is symbolic of the individual who has made himself right with all things, and (most of all) is true to himself and to his fellow men. Human relationships lead to divine relationships, and the unfolding soul builds ever more noble mansions as vehicles for its expression.
Out of the present maelstrom of perverted sexology the philosopher can see a more noble spirit arising – not one who in a lofty way has avoided the endless pitfalls, but one who, nauseated with falsity and sham, has risen to loftier aspirations. The great task of our age is to dignify human relationships; to return the divine crown to the head upon which it belongs; to purify, cleanse, and redeem all things; to transmute civilization as one would transmute a personal habit. The Hermetic Marriage is the apotheosis of the world’s most abused institution, which will rise again from the slime into which it has sunk; for in its proper recognition and application we see the hope of the race.
(Excerpts from The Hermetic Marriage by Manly P. Hall)
I believe there are many people who are recognizing this within themselves and my hope is that they have the courage to break from any shackles that would hold them back or inhibit this most vital metamorphosis.
I love these words from Khalil Gibran’s poem about Marriage, because, for me, it refers to both the marriage between a man and a woman but also the alchemical marriage that takes place within the individual who realizes the Oneness of true reality, the androgyny of the Infinite:
Then Almitra spoke again and said, ‘And what of Marriage, master?’
And he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.